I think less than 4 percent of all men in the United States meet those criteria. There are a lot of average-looking men who feel anything less than a total knockout would be a disappointment. The idea of instant gratification is embedded in this country. A lot of people have great qualities, but you have to give them a chance. I’ve had people who’ve been very successful with a “four date” rule. If somebody has 80 percent of what you want, pay attention. Other people get to know each other slowly and think, “You know, he’s a little more than I thought he was. If you're looking to date people who aren't into you and never will be, you're destined for failure." That's blunt talk, but Holt has the experience to back it up.