Many parents struggle with knowing what limits to set with how much time they should allow their child to spend with their boyfriend/girlfriend and what they can do if they think their child is in a relationship that’s too serious. Dating at this age meant eating lunch together at school, going to the community dances, and posting on Facebook that you’re “in a relationship.” He and his “girlfriend” would buy each other red carnations during the Valentine’s Day fundraiser at school. Still, by the time he was 15, his relationships were lasting longer and he seemed to be getting more serious. He started to buy “serious” gifts, like roses and heart–shaped lockets.
A teen does not learn how to date in the classroom and most likely has only picked up on some of the basics, like respecting someone’s personal space, at home.
But without experience in a romantic relationship, teens don't know what to expect.
Let them know that if they’re romantic with somebody, you want to meet that person, and you want them to be honest about the nature of their relationship. Does your gut tell you that they might try to do something dishonest?
Discuss your rules: no overnights with a romantic partner, no being in the room with the door closed, etc. If they don’t have your trust, how can they regain it?
Relationships with friends are still important, yet your teen will have other interests as he develops a more clear sense of who he is.