Jesus taught in the Sermon on the Mount that good trees bear good fruit, while bad trees bear bad fruit.The church’s rejection of same-sex relationships has caused tremendous, needless suffering to the LGBT community—bad fruit.Sexual orientation is a new concept—one that the Christian tradition hasn’t addressed.
I remember taking all of these risks while I was single (except Speed Dating as there was never that option presented).
I get the privilege of being a part of many of you ‘stepping out’ into some unknown and sometimes scary situations. We get a personal trainer at the gym, advance in our education through schooling of all sorts, adventure in new ways, attend conferences for work and spiritual advancement etc, etc, etc, but this area of the heart and relationships can be especially scary and unknown. You’re planting seeds that will grow into something substantial and lasting, but as God likes to do, we can sometimes sow seeds in one field only to have the harvest pop up in a different field.
However, as the years have passed by, the dates I've had with men at church have been rather few and far between.
And I'm not the only woman who has found this to be true. On a mission to answer this question, and many others, I talked informally with a group of men in New York City, and then sat down with the guys from Bel Air Presbyterian to chat about the pursuit of love, about Christian dating, and about why on earth they don't want to date women who go to their church.
Joshua Harris, for instance, has promoted a model of courtship that harkens back to a model used broadly before modern dating evolved.